I watched my best friend die yesterday - Page 9

101lifts2 · 09-09-2009, 03:09 AM

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Originally Posted by CasterTroy

As if this crap hasn't been tough enough........ more stuff has surfaced in his life that no one knows about (but ME now) and it's just more than I needed to EVER know or wanted to know.

Geez I don't need all this information.

SO dissapointed in him

What... u gonna leave us hangin? lol

I also thought you were divorced, no?

I've been through this a few times...it sucks. I lost a friend in 2003, then in 2006 both to cycle accidents AND my very good bud almost died in 2007. I was right behind him riding in the canyons when he crashed right up against the mountainside (lowsided). It's hard to swallow.....Even the best riders fall.

My prayers go out to his family and yours.

fnfalman · 09-09-2009, 03:31 AM

I remembered watching my buddy's truck gotten blown up by a mine and saw the remains of his body. I didn't have to tell his wife and kid that he died but later on when I returned home and went to see them, the wife said that she wanted nothing to do with the Army including the people that he served with. I never will forget the hatred she had in her eyes.

Sometimes the deads have it easy.

My condolences to you and even more so to his living family.

Amber Lamps · 09-09-2009, 03:37 AM

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Originally Posted by fnfalman

I remembered watching my buddy's truck gotten blown up by a mine and saw the remains of his body. I didn't have to tell his wife and kid that he died but later on when I returned home and went to see them, the wife said that she wanted nothing to do with the Army including the people that he served with. I never will forget the hatred she had in her eyes.

Sometimes the deads have it easy.

My condolences to you and even more so to his living family.

Yea when one of my buddies lost his leg in '96, his girlfriend freaked out on all of us at the hospital and accused us of crippling him... I also once saw a guy's Mom spit on the bikes at his funeral. It can be so tough sometimes for those left behind or that have to pick up the pieces.

CasterTroy · 09-09-2009, 04:15 AM

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Originally Posted by 101lifts2

I also thought you were divorced, no?

Yep.....2006

Remarried in may

Apoc · 09-09-2009, 05:55 PM

Different woman though, right?

HurricaneHeather · 09-09-2009, 06:55 PM

Well I shouldn't have read this at work...

Someone said it perfectly: Brian died painlessly doing what he loved with his best friend. We should all be so lucky.

I have no idea what you and his wife must be going through right now. My condolences.

MILK · 09-09-2009, 10:30 PM

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Originally Posted by Apoc

Different woman though, right?

Apoc! For shame! Start a new thread! (Although despite the topic of this thread your post made me giggle, couldn't help it..)

Troy I am so sorry you are going through this. Hokie is right about Doug though, he is a great guy and I know he would talk to you if you want to. I have his number and if you want me to give him your number send me a PM.

fasternyou929 · 09-09-2009, 10:48 PM

Troy, I wish I had something more helpful to say than I'm sorry. Your post was so moving I almost had to stop reading it. Take care of yourself and don't pressure yourself to decide right away whether or not riding is something you want to continue doing. There's nothing wrong with taking a break for a while and letting yourself heal.

I hope you don't mind, but our local board had a vague thread started about this and I pointed them here for information. Your local riding family has you, your family, and your friend's family in their thoughts: http://www.ncsportbikes.com/forums/v...er=asc&start=0

CasterTroy · 09-09-2009, 11:09 PM

Thanks.....Do me a favor and remove the familys last name....I've been asked to take stuff down so his wife and mother do not find the posts on google.

The funeral was tonight.......I lost it when they rolled him out

Apoc · 09-09-2009, 11:28 PM

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Originally Posted by MILK

Apoc! For shame! Start a new thread! (Although despite the topic of this thread your post made me giggle, couldn't help it..)

Troy I am so sorry you are going through this. Hokie is right about Doug though, he is a great guy and I know he would talk to you if you want to. I have his number and if you want me to give him your number send me a PM.

I already gave my condolences, and we were on the topic, it seemed appropriate at the time?

Hindsights 20/20. Troy knows I meant no disrespect.

And Troy, funerals are the worst thing in the world. The only thing that can make you more miserable than you already are, is being around 100 other people who feel the same.

Take some time alone, with your kids and wife. Appreciate what you've got and be thankful for it, and remember him well.

09-09-2009, 03:31 AM	#82
fnfalman Europhile Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: SoCal Moto: Aprilia RS125, Aprilia SR50 Factory, Aprilia Tuono, BMW Rockster, KTM 990 Adventure Posts: 1,875	I remembered watching my buddy's truck gotten blown up by a mine and saw the remains of his body. I didn't have to tell his wife and kid that he died but later on when I returned home and went to see them, the wife said that she wanted nothing to do with the Army including the people that he served with. I never will forget the hatred she had in her eyes. Sometimes the deads have it easy. My condolences to you and even more so to his living family. __________________ *Cogito Ergo Vroom - I think therefore I ride*

09-09-2009, 10:48 PM	#88
fasternyou929 SFL Expatriate #2 Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Raleigh, NC Moto: CBR1000 Posts: 2,043	Troy, I wish I had something more helpful to say than I'm sorry. Your post was so moving I almost had to stop reading it. Take care of yourself and don't pressure yourself to decide right away whether or not riding is something you want to continue doing. There's nothing wrong with taking a break for a while and letting yourself heal. I hope you don't mind, but our local board had a vague thread started about this and I pointed them here for information. Your local riding family has you, your family, and your friend's family in their thoughts: http://www.ncsportbikes.com/forums/v...er=asc&start=0 Last edited by fasternyou929; 09-09-2009 at 11:30 PM..

09-09-2009, 11:09 PM	#89
CasterTroy ................ Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: NC Posts: 3,028	Thanks.....Do me a favor and remove the familys last name....I've been asked to take stuff down so his wife and mother do not find the posts on google. The funeral was tonight.......I lost it when they rolled him out __________________ “Being tolerant does not mean that I share another one’s belief. But it does mean that I acknowledge another one’s right to believe, and obey, his own conscience.” Viktor Frankl

09-09-2009, 05:55 PM	#85
Apoc For Science. You Monster. Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Canada Moto: '08 HD FLSTSB Posts: 3,546	Different woman though, right?

09-09-2009, 06:55 PM	#86
HurricaneHeather AMA Supersport Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Sydney Moto: '98 Honda Fireblade Posts: 3,696	Well I shouldn't have read this at work... Someone said it perfectly: Brian died painlessly doing what he loved with his best friend. We should all be so lucky. I have no idea what you and his wife must be going through right now. My condolences.