Cheating

[CrazyKell]

If you found out your SO was cheating would you continue the relationship?

[karl_1052]

Hello no,

Out she goes!

[the chi]

It depends on your version of work it out...does a 45 applied to various bodily parts count?

[CrazyKell]

Originally Posted by The Chi

It depends on your version of work it out...does a 45 applied to various bodily parts count?

True.

For me it'd be a resounding HELL no. I don't care if it was one time or multiple times. Done. It's just too big a sin for me to ever consider carrying on a life with that person.

[Rider]

Originally Posted by CrazyKell

True.

For me it'd be a resounding HELL no. I don't care if it was one time or multiple times. Done. It's just too big a sin for me to ever consider carrying on a life with that person.

What is your definition of cheating? For many people it's different. Does it have to include actual sex acts or could it be just a date. Say, just having lunch with a co worker without telling your SO. How about maybe just a kiss?

Some people believe that even just thinking about anyone else is cheating.

[CrazyKell]

Originally Posted by Speedracer42

Im always shocked by the # of HELL NO responses. I continued to stay after my (then wife) cheated. The marriage eventually fell apart and that was for the better. Im not saying cheating is excusable. But I know for example, one woman who cheated after begging for YEARS her husband to give her more attention, have sex with her more, be a better presence in the house. Is it excused? No. But I get it. And so did he. If you truly LOVE someone there isn't alot that shouldn't be forgiven ONCE

Did he really love her if he was like that to her?

Originally Posted by Rider

What is your definition of cheating? For many people it's different. Does it have to include actual sex acts or could it be just a date. Say, just having lunch with a co worker without telling your SO. How about maybe just a kiss?

Some people believe that even just thinking about anyone else is cheating.

Good question. I don't have a hard and fast definition and I'm very open about things. I don't get jealous of things like having lunch out. I guess it would be when they cross a line. If they were doing something with someone else that they wouldn't do in front of me (ie. holding hands, kissing, having sex, etc. etc.) then that's cheating. They've checked out of our relationship and really have no respect for me or the relationship anymore.

[karl_1052]

Originally Posted by Rider

What is your definition of cheating? For many people it's different. Does it have to include actual sex acts or could it be just a date. Say, just having lunch with a co worker without telling your SO. How about maybe just a kiss?

Some people believe that even just thinking about anyone else is cheating.

Kissing would be cheating, unless it was cheek kisses, but H1N1 has killed those off.

[Rider]

No.

[Speedracer42]

Im always shocked by the # of HELL NO responses. I continued to stay after my (then wife) cheated. The marriage eventually fell apart and that was for the better. Im not saying cheating is excusable. But I know for example, one woman who cheated after begging for YEARS her husband to give her more attention, have sex with her more, be a better presence in the house. Is it excused? No. But I get it. And so did he. If you truly LOVE someone there isn't alot that shouldn't be forgiven ONCE

[Sean]

Originally Posted by Speedracer42

But I know for example, one woman who cheated after begging for YEARS her husband to give her more attention, have sex with her more, be a better presence in the house. Is it excused? No. But I get it. And so did he. If you truly LOVE someone there isn't alot that shouldn't be forgiven ONCE

I can kind of understand this

Thankfully I've never been in this situation (that I know of) so I can't really say how I'd react.

ETA: I also have a hard time leaving someone I care about, so they'd have to really ufkc things up to get rid of me