I may be getting rid of a longtime friend

[Captain Morgan]

I've known this guy for more than 20 years. But over the past couple years I've seen more and more things I don't like.

He cheats on his wife constantly and uses me as an alibi.

He has quit at least 4 jobs by simply not showing up. No notice, no contact after they've called and asked where he is, nothing. On one of the jobs, he'd been hired by someone that use to be a friend. He quit less than a week later. Just stopped going. Didn't even call her, didn't even care. He wanted me to ask my dad to hire him for some work. Yeah, right.

He and his wife borrowed money from his brother to get some training for a job. They moved 1500 miles away. His wife got hired and he didn't. She decided she didn't like where they lived and left him to come back here. He had no money, no job, nothing, so he came back. He asked his brother for money to make his car payments. His bother agreed, as long as the guy didn't go back to his wife (who he'd already been divorced from once, but had remarried).

My friend didn't really want to stay with his dad or grandma, so he slept on my couch for two weeks. He stayed up till 6 am and slept till 2 or 3 in the afternoon. On my couch. In the only part of my house for my daughter and I to play when the weather is nasty. I asked him if he could simply stay somewhere else while I had my daughter. He got mad and decided to just stay with his dad. That lasted a day, maybe 2, then he went back to his wife. I ran into his brother about 3 weeks later and we got to talking.

I had no idea his brother didn't want him to go back to his wife, or that his brother had even loaned him more money. His brother asked about my friend and how it was going at their dad's house. I laughed and said he was back with his wife. Obviously, his brother wasn't happy. He had been talking to his brother this whole time and had been telling him he was staying with their dad, while he was really back with his wife.

My friend's wife and I don't see eye to eye. She is a vindictive bitch, even on shit she really shouldn't be pissed about. One night, their hot water heater went out. Their landlord wasn't going to be able to get to it for a day or two, so I went and worked on it. It was 9pm and I had not eaten dinner cause I just got off work. They said they had food and I could have some if I fixed the water heater. Problem was, Lowe's and Home Depot were closing soon. I went straight to work on the water heater. His wife was in the kitchen and I asked if she could warm up some food while I worked on the water heater and I'd eat while working. She didn't think she should have to and said I was being chauvenistic (sp?). To get even with me, she got on some gay websites and gave out my phone number. My friend thought it was funny.

My friend and I started playing on a pool league. His wife joined. It turned out that one of the players on another team was an old friend of mine from high school. She and I hung out that night. My friend's wife has hated that girl since high school because she thinks the girl stole her boyfriend. 15+ years ago, and she still hates the girl. To get back at me for hanging out with this girl that night, she gave my phone number to a psycho chick that use to stalk me. My friend said he wasn't going to get in the middle of it.

I had moved my stuff back to Terre Haute from Indianapolis and was going to keep it in my parent's garage. I brought some of my friend's stuff back with me. Stuff he'd had in storage. I asked him to come help me unload the truck, since I was bringing his stuff back. He no-showed on me. Didn't answer his phone. I took his stuff to his house and left it on the porch.

I bought a house 10 months later. I asked him to help me move. He said he would. He no-showed again. Didn't answer his phone. Couldn't understand why I was mad at him.

I've been staking him on poker online. He plays very well and makes decent money at it. We split profits. He recently started getting rakeback from the sites he plays on. For those that don't know, rake is part of a tournament entry fee or part of the money the house collects from a cash game to help pay for running the site or the casino. Anyway, rake is paid directly out of entry fee money. He was getting a discounted rake, but felt it was ok for him to keep that money he got back, rather than putting it back into the stake to go towards profit that would be split up.

I told him it was wrong, he said he had a right to keep the money, that I was calling him a thief and that he didn't want me to stake him anymore. He'd go find someone else to stake him. And he wouldn't be telling them about getting rakeback, because he shouldn't have to let them know. With this rakeback, he could actually lose the stakers money, and yet he would still make money by getting rakeback. I think that's something any staker should be aware of. If they agree to it, that's their choice, but they should at least know. He doesn't think they should know about it at all. But he's not a thief.

The guy has shown a pattern of complete lack of respect for anyone but himself. We've been friends a LONG time, but I'm not sure I really want to be friends with someone like that.