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05-16-2010, 12:12 PM
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WERA White Plate
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Location: Renton, WA
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I'm in trouble now...
The gf got a job offer in Philly. Yay! er... maybe.
It's in Newtown/Yardley actually, which is 48 minutes according to google maps. Obviously a lot longer with traffic up I95. Full time, full benefits, and real weekends! doing basically the same thing she's doing now. Supposed to start June 1. The pay is OK for what it is, but it would be some amount less than she's making now (at two part time jobs), and much less than I'm making. I'm okay with the pay thing, since I have enough to make everything work on my side of the bills, and to provide the basics. It sucks because she hasn't found anything in her degree field yet. And she's going to be driving a LOT and hates city traffic. So she's trading off a horrible schedule of two part time jobs for around two hours a day of driving in a completely alien city. Trading stress one and two for stress three, and I'm hoping for a more pleasant outcome *sigh* Lately she's been kind of miserable  And I'm    I agree that her schedule now is pretty shitty, and her roommate is a 10 year old stuck in a 40 year old's body and I want to rescue his dog, and some of her "friends" are real bloodsuckers. She had a great time at the wedding and reception with her friends last night, but missed a shift somewhere and started slipping back into bitch mode. 
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05-16-2010, 12:18 PM
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Um...if you're not happy and she's not happy...
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05-16-2010, 12:29 PM
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You can't make anyone happy but yourself. Even if you love her person and she loves your person you have to be one and love that entity more than yourself. If that dont make both of you happy, no amount of compromise or external factors will save your relationship.
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05-16-2010, 12:50 PM
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Forum Coach
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Thanks, you said it much better. You should be excited about this move, and she honestly should be excited to start the new chapter with you. We al lmake sacrifices for the people we love, and alot of the time it sucks, but you suck it up and make the best of it.
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05-16-2010, 02:08 PM
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I would not live in Philly for any amount of money. Or NJ or California. Ever.
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05-16-2010, 02:14 PM
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05-16-2010, 02:36 PM
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WERA White Plate
Join Date: Feb 2008
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Just spoke to her. Am I evil for feeling better about this now that she's crying and fighting to go with me?
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05-16-2010, 02:37 PM
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05-16-2010, 02:47 PM
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